“Orgasming on command” is a common BDSM fantasy and (judging from what I read on the internets) a fairly common play project as well. How well it is reported to actually work varies a lot, with enthusiasts and skeptics both reporting in whenever this comes up in conversation. I like what This Girl has to say on the subject, and I’ve added my own bold emphasis on what strikes me as the smartest part of it:
This girl can’t remember when exactly, but Grimly built a brainwashing mask maybe about six years ago now. He designed it especially with her in mind because part of her still held back, part of her wanted to be controlled but the sort of headstrong independent part of her character was needing to be conquered, to submit because she had no choice that it was the natural version of events, because of his cunning, strength, dominance, ability, and basically him being an evil brainwashing bastard.
Grimly used a combination of the mask, electrotherapy and neuro linguistic programming to put a trigger in this girl’s head that whenever she heard a certain word (later a few different words) that she would orgasm and that she wouldn’t orgasm otherwise. This meant that even over the phone, just from hearing his voice this girl could orgasm.
Some people might not believe this, or might say that its faked. The thing is though, you believe what you want to believe. For most of the last seven or so years this girl has believed it to the point where she *has* orgasmed from his commands, more intensely from play and pain than from not, but even from cold she has orgasmed from his trigger word.
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