There’s a common complaint among women, stemming from the fact that the general run of people are crap at sex, that they don’t get enough attention paid to their clits. I said “people” and not just “men” here because although men are kinda notorious for pleasuring themselves and just sorta vaguely hoping an orgasm will happen for their partner, sex is a team sport and it requires communication, which too often doesn’t happen. Fortunately in the modern world women seem more inclined than they used to be to take matters into their own hands:
This has spawned several entire categories of sex toys that didn’t exist when I was a youth. Vibrators with clitoral suction, like the Lelo Sona 2 Cruise, are a relatively recent and very popular invention. But as men and women get better at communication, I’m seeing echos in the culture (especially on sex blogs and in erotic art) that the good old fashioned plugged-into-the-wall electric vibrator (which has been with us for almost a century and a half) is getting a more frequent workout in couples sex than it used to.
Meanwhile, when it comes to clitoral attention, I believe things have always been better here in BDSM land. Not all BDSM play is explicitly sexual, of course, especially in the public clubs and venues, but there are lots of people who will tell you that when it’s sex, it’s better sex. My own theory on this is that good BDSM has a lot of communication happening, and this naturally spills over into the kinky sex. Plus, a good dom or top is typically goals-driven when it comes to the experience they hope to create for the sub. So if an orgasm (or ten) is on the menu, that checkbox is gonna get checked in bold red ink!
As I’ve often discussed here on this blog, there’s a fine line between pleasure and pain, especially when the pleasure is outside your submisive’s control. More than a few dominant dudes have used this fact ironically. They’ll get some lady all tied up and then say “I hear those fuckboys you’ve been dating haven’t been paying enough attention to your clit. I propose to remedy that!” And then, as you might say, they go a little bit overboard with the bondage clit stimulation:
Of course, there’s nothing the rulebook that prohibits the prolonged application of pain and pleasure simultaneously, either. This classic “wooden horse and relentless vibrator” scenario is an excellent demonstration of the principle:
Art credits for this post, from top to bottom: The chained woman with all the rings in her labia and her clit caught in a suction device is by Eyamigusa. The gape-cunted girl rubbing a vibrating egg toy on her clit is by Satsuki Imonet. The lady impaled on a thick cock with a Magic Wand vibrator jammed against her clit is by Rrrotten. The caged submissive with a vibrator tied to her pussy is by Eudetenis. The feather-tickled pretty in the improvised spreader bar bondage is by Carnelian. And the helpless vibrating-pony rider is by an artist known as My Pet Tentacle Monster.
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