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How to stay close to your BFF: handcuffs!

Found on Tumblr.

I recognize this as work by the artist known as Dementia — and it’s mild stuff for him; usually he’s all over-the-top whips and needles and branding irons and oceans of cum:

Via Erectus.

If you’ve spent any time at all surfing the kinky web, you’ll have fairly quickly found yourself at one or another of the many many sites that document historical restraints and torture methods, as applied to martyrs, suspected witches, criminal wretches of ancient times, and the like. Although there can be quite a lot of overlap with modern BDSM fantasies and tropes, I’ve never had — despite a few exceptions — a lot of time for that material; my sense of justice, love of due process, and empathy for the real anguish of long-dead victims of oppression tends to overwhelm any sexual frisson I might otherwise get from the tools of bondage under discussion.

One classic example is that infamous tool of the Spanish Inquisition, the so-called “pear of anguish”. In its traditional form (and you can find photos of lovingly-wrought examples of this tool all over the internet) it was a simple screw device with three curved iron petals. Screwed closed, it was roughly the shape of a butt plug, or, poetically speaking, a pear. In this state it could be inserted in the anus, the vagina, or the mouth. And then, of course, the inquisitor would start turning the screw, causing the petals to be forced apart. Whether this caused “mere” pain or horrid disfigurement presumably depends on how far the screw was turned, but many of the historical examples have additional spikes attached, making it clear that avoiding tissue damage was emphatically not a priority. Not sexy, not to me.

But the idea of it has some play room in its memespace. If you had one that was well-machined of smooth steel, small enough to be inserted in the first instance with no greater trauma than any other butt plug or dildo, you could have some fun with it. But the machining, the complexity, the difficulty … nobody’s ever going to bother with that, not for any project less vital than rooting out the dire menace that is witches in all of our cupboards. Right?

Wrong:

Not only has somebody started manufacturing these intrusive beasts for sale, they took the minor added step of making it lockable, so that it can’t readily be removed by unauthorized persons. And — in a move I think clever, given the bloody horror at the historical root of these vicious little items — they are marketing it as an anal chastity “ass lock” device:

Sometimes, you want others to know that your ass is off-limits. One glance at the Ultimate Asslock in use will be enough to let others know move on – this ass is spoken for! Simply insert this steel piece of botany into your back door and widen its petals to blossom while inside you to achieve a truly unique feeling of fullness.

[Update: Sadly, it’s no longer for sale.]

Elsewhere on Bondage Blog:

• Do You Need Some Shackles?
• Butt Hook
• Steel Nose Hook
• Old Medical Gag
• Wrapped In Steel
• Cold Stainless Steel: NJoy Pure Wand

An interesting graph derived from data at one of the big online dating sites, as reported here:

I think this says more about gender differences in socialization about what sorts of things to divulge, though, than about any underlying actual desires and preferences. Young people these days of either gender are much more likely to say what they want, so I believe/trust the youth end of that scale. The rest of the chart, I suspect, may say more about what men and women were taught in various times past was acceptable to want and the extent to which it was proper to admit (even to themselves) what they want.

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• Seven Years Of Bondage Sex Art
• Proud, Humble, Abased
• In Her Face
• Fucking Dungeon
• Rough Sex, Bigger Orgasms

Have I really been doing a bondage links post every week for thirty weeks?

• Let’s start off today with a link to Spanking Blog, where there is a nice bondage spanking illustration by the legendary Bob Bishop.
• Corner time? But she won’t stay in her corner? Two handcuffs will sort her out.
• Tied feet — let the bastinado commence!
• Presenting the ass lock. It’s a real steel locking anal pear, no kidding! This actually deserves its own post; stay tuned.
• BDSM doesn’t always have to be about skinny little barely-legal models. It works pretty well on middle-aged wives, too!
• You know those horrid steel futon frames that are hideously uncomfortable to sit or sleep on? They’re still not worthless, as the legs make good attachment points if you’ve got some nude girls you don’t want to let escape.
• The bondage caning is always more fun when the girl is crying already, amirite?
• All it takes is a little bit of bondage tape, and you’ve got an excellent free show going on.
• Dungeons and pillories and naked women and whips — they never get old.
• Capture the boobs, cane the boobs. She won’t like it — but isn’t that sometimes the point?
• She’s leashed, collared, and forced to lick her own boobs.
• The collar, the leash, and the look on her face all tell me she’s soon gonna be wearing a lot less clothes.
• Here’s your philosophy question for the day, like the old “tree falling that nobody sees” one. If you give a good double-handed hard squeeze to a girl’s boobs, but she’s gagged and can’t complain so there’s no noise, did it ever happen? Or do you have to just do it again?
• How about an anime girl strapped down tight to a spanking bench and getting her ass turned bright red?
• Recipe for a good blowjob: One couch, one naked girl, one set of ankle cuffs, one set of furry handcuffs.
• The burning candle in her mouth is dripping hot wax on her boobs. But dropping it is likely to be worse. What’s a girl to do?
• I am not entirely sure what complex medical procedure is here being attempted, but if it takes a nurse, a pair of rubber gloves, rope bondage, and a huge tube of lube, it must be fun, right?
• A nice set of nipple clamps is a good way to make sure a woman doesn’t slouch. If you set ’em up right.
• It looks like this bondage girl is in for a long night of it. How many times do you think she’s been spanked already?
• She’s hogtied and getting her feet caned — I guess that explains the unhappy look on her face.

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• Friday Bondage Links Cornucopia #29
• Friday Bondage Links Cornucopia #28
• Friday Bondage Links Cornucopia #27
• Friday Bondage Links Cornucopia #26
• Friday Bondage Links Cornucopia #25

I like the hand gripping her hair in this artwork. The pincers in his other hand? Those, I could do without:

It’s from a comic called Forbidden Dreams by Pinti.

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• Hair Pulling Bondage
• Hair Bondage For Female Prisoner
• Hair Bondage

A few paragraphs of rare clarity on the whole feminist opposition to BDSM fooferaw:

Men who enjoy dominating and humiliating women in a BDSM context, actually just enjoy dominating and humiliating their sex partner… and they happen to be heterosexual. There are men who enjoy dominating and humiliating other men exist as well, women who enjoy dominating and humiliating men exist, women who enjoy dominating and humiliating women exist. It’s not about subjugating women, or men or any one else, it’s about consensually pretending to subjugate your sex partner, because you both enjoy it, it’s the game you happen to like. It’s not about misogyny/misandry… it’s about what sex/gender turns you on.

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[H]ow can these good, decent, kind hearted, egalitarian men enjoy tying up their girlfriends and beating them?

Because their girlfriends consent, because their girlfriends enjoy it. It’s not about man dominating woman because he’s man and she’s woman and that’s how it goes. It’s about two lovers, one who is sexually aroused by delivering pain/dominance/etc and another who is sexually aroused by receiving pain/dominance/etc.

Just so.