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I found a lot of value in Mollena’s Seven (Random) Suggestions for Dominant Types, but I didn’t find the suggestions at all random; they all boil down to people skills. Mollena is careful to avoid pointing these tips at any particular sex or gender, but I don’t mind saying that many of the interpersonal rough spots these suggestions will help avoid are common in the social lives of (it seems to me) male dominants of limited experience, particularly the more nerdy ones with a rigid-ish rules-based worldview about how kink ought to work. (Thankfully most of these guys do learn, over time, that people are in fact squishy and complicated and need routine petting for proper function.)

Here’s part of one of her suggestions:

Acknowledge your submissive’s service to you.

[B]eing seen by the people we serve is a precious emotional jewel that we hold close to our hearts and that feeds and sustains us as we grow in service. For me? Hearing “good girl” is its own unique reward. It is so very, very important for me to hear positive reinforcement while I am in service. Plus, frankly, it makes me wibbly in my nibblybits. And believe you me, when my nibblybits are wibbly, I am putty in your hands.

If correcting missteps is the only time you give us feedback? You’re setting the stage to place the people in service to you in a particularly vulnerable position. Rather than coming from a place of self-assurance and positivity, it can generate an atmosphere of mistrust and fear.

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Photo is titled “Natalie” and it’s by Tomasz Brodawka.

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The sex comic Dr. Frankie Steinns’s Monster, by Erenisch, does not disappoint. As you would expect, the mad doctor is a hot lesbian babe, the monster has a brain borrowed from a serial rapist-murderer, and on the night he comes to life, there are three cute lost college girls in the tourist guest bedrooms of the ominous castle. Frankie and Igor take turns enjoying the four women, before Igor gets rid of Frankie so he can have all the kinky bondage sex for himself:

From Dofantasy.com. And just in time for Halloween!

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This is only the warmup; this dungeon wouldn’t exist if all it took to get them talking was a few stripes across the bare back!

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I’ve never felt the urge to host a BDSM party, but this looks like a very practical and sensible set of first steps for the party planning:

How To Throw The Perfect BDSM Party

For instance, about the space:

Lets take a look at what makes a good play space. If you can, arrange for four distinct areas. When guests first arrive they will want somewhere to change out of street clothes, and someplace to put them so that they can find them at the end of the night. One solution is to provide brown paper shopping bags with a number marked on them for clothes and shoes, etc. guests can either write the number down, or some sort of ticket corresponding to the bag can be handed out.

Welcome the quests into a social area with food, drink and a place to sit and hang out without disturbing people who are already playing. This makes for a good way to get into the mood of the party, take a break between scenes and talk to others.

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If at all possible create two dungeon spaces. If there is a fairly accessible, open play area where people can easily watch what is going on, and where there is an unwritten understanding that this a good place for the lighter stuff, where a sense of fun and humor is acceptable, and where a newcomer to the scene will be less likely to be scared off, then there could also be a more private, intimate space where the serious players can do their stuff. If people do want to watch what is going on in the heavier space, then they should be prepared to be unobtrusive, so as not to disturb the experiences that the players are working to achieve.

And so forth.

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The arms would start to give out before long in this position; who can hold a handstand forever? But the small of her back won’t thank her at all, once she starts to lose the support of her arms:

The lovely tattooed lady in this bit of predicament bondage is Krysta Kaos. She looks like a tough girl, but nobody’s that tough!

Picture is from Device Bondage.

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Art is by François Miville-Deschênes.