Bondage Gaming
One of the common ways lifestyle kinksters try to make kinky play seem less threatening to the vanilla mundanes they know is to use cutesy phrases like “bondage games” to describe tying each other up on sex/date nights. In a world where you can go online and play actual games that feature BDSM themes, this usage of bondage game falls somewhat short of being an unambiguous communications strategy.
To me, bondage gaming suggests something else entirely. Perhaps I spend too much time engrossed in nerdy erotic art. (Who am I fooling? Of course I spend too much time looking at nerdy porn.) To me, the term “bondage games” suggests that the world is full of bondage gamers — which in fact it is! I have, all you readers will no doubt be shocked to learn, spent one or two hours of my life in gamer pursuits my own self. And so I am entirely delighted when I find hentai art that combines these passions.
How do you combine bondage and gaming? Well, let me count the numerous fun and delicious ways. One popular approach is to let your bondage play partner play games while she would otherwise be languishing, perhaps a bit boredly so, in your ropes, collars, straps, chains, and other articles of restraint:
You can make your own game out of bondage gaming, too, if you want. You know your partner’s ways. She has certain gaming standards. Can she meet those standards while her tender and sensitive bits are being groped, pinched, licked, tickled, and stimulated? Perhaps if she does not, there are novel punishments that must be administered! It’s not like she can stop you, is it?
Another approach is to game cooperatively, as you always do. But, you know, plan to take some breaks. And if the dominant/submissive logic of your relationship demands it, what’s to stop you from throwing her over the arm of your well-stuffed gaming couch and utterly ravishing her? You can always go right back to your game afterwards. (Well, perhaps a beverage and a light snack would also be nice.)
I’m not a huge fan of the common trope about kinky male gamers who restrain their sexually-demanding girlfriends just so they can get enough peace and quiet to get back to their gaming habit. In my experience, women are just as likely as men to become engrossed in their game of choice, and thus to desire a bit of uninterrupted gaming time. However, I do love the “restraint by tying her dress above her head” trope, so this determined gamer gets a pass from me:
Nonetheless, I much prefer the dominant gamer who chooses to include his or her bound partner in their gaming activities. The “she’s a good girl who, tied as she is, has no choice but to give him a long luxurious blowjob while he headshots badguys with his buddies” thing is also sometimes overdone. But here the artist has flipped the polarities. This femdom gamer girl — perhaps offended by her submissive boyfriend’s poor taste in plastic shoes — has given the hapless fellow no choice at all but to eat out her ass while she eats corn chips and swills caffeine and racks up high scores on her squad leaderboard.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I believe I want to go play a bondage game…
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