Rough Sex For Grownups
The BDSM community is pretty comfortable with our rituals and habits and costumes, so much so that we sometimes forget that these are the trappings of a subculture, and not an inherent part of the kinky sex itself. (Except, of course, when strongly fetishized, in particular cases.) Kinky sex is bigger than the community:
I consider myself to err on the side of sexual submission. I have never been into the performative aspects of it all — I am not some weird sex LARPer who wants to wear costumes and address each other as “Master” and “Slave.” I don’t want to go to special events, I shouldn’t have to wear pleather just to get it done, and I don’t want to “play.” I want to have weird sex with weird people who like weird things, like an adult.
Some of those weird things that I like include: rough breast play including slapping, clothespins and ropes; name-calling of the slut-bitch-whore variety; forced deepthroating; facials; “Daddy” talk; rape play; spanking; dirty talk; hair-pulling; group sex; anal; and basically anything else filthy/nasty/taboo/found in your average pornographic video. Also, and here’s the stuff that’s more for special occasions and that I don’t want to admit on a site for ladies: being slapped, being spit on, being choked, being urinated on.
Does that sound like a list of nightmares to you? To me it sounds like a delightful Tuesday evening.
