BDSM: Not About Subjugation Of Women

A few paragraphs of rare clarity on the whole feminist opposition to BDSM fooferaw:

Men who enjoy dominating and humiliating women in a BDSM context, actually just enjoy dominating and humiliating their sex partner… and they happen to be heterosexual. There are men who enjoy dominating and humiliating other men exist as well, women who enjoy dominating and humiliating men exist, women who enjoy dominating and humiliating women exist. It’s not about subjugating women, or men or any one else, it’s about consensually pretending to subjugate your sex partner, because you both enjoy it, it’s the game you happen to like. It’s not about misogyny/misandry… it’s about what sex/gender turns you on.

[H]ow can these good, decent, kind hearted, egalitarian men enjoy tying up their girlfriends and beating them?

Because their girlfriends consent, because their girlfriends enjoy it. It’s not about man dominating woman because he’s man and she’s woman and that’s how it goes. It’s about two lovers, one who is sexually aroused by delivering pain/dominance/etc and another who is sexually aroused by receiving pain/dominance/etc.

Just so.

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One comment on “BDSM: Not About Subjugation Of Women”:

slave d. commented on May 20th, 2011 at 4:47 am:

“Rare clarity” is right. All too often, radfems come across as parodies of the religious right in their denunciation of anything outside of their own comfort zones.

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