Comments on: The Making Of A Dominant https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/ Taking Pleasure In The Beauty Of Restrained Women Sat, 08 Mar 2014 16:03:43 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: LukeWM https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22235 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 17:04:34 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22235 Gay men popularized BDSM, but they didn’t create it. Marquis de Sade, the namesake for the word sadism, was hetero. Also, there are not more submissives in BDSM than dominants. There may be more male submissives than female dominants, but that’s just because there is more men. There is also more male dominants than female submissives. I agree that being a dom takes some study and diplomacy, but a lot of the above post just isn’t true.

]]> By: Pat Powers https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22121 Wed, 25 Jul 2012 03:31:32 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22121 Gay guys can do as they like, I’ll do as I like.

]]> By: Rope Guy https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22096 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 14:24:52 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22096 TeaMan, do some googling? It’s a big subject.

]]> By: TeaMan https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22093 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 07:56:22 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22093 What aspects exactly came from gay men? I can’t assume Dom/Sub relationships actually started strictly from gay men? So what aspects specifically are attributed to them? All I get from this is that they started an actual group/hierarchy where you started on the bottom and had to serve before you could be a top.

]]> By: Rope Guy https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22074 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 15:18:32 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22074 It’s a historical example offered to disprove a current assertion — not a recommendation about how to live.

]]> By: Den https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22067 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 02:05:25 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22067 I always love the fantasy that because a tiny group of people founded a group ethic 60 years ago, that should be followed now. I generally ask, “You know about that same time, women stayed home and had babies, kept house, raised the kids, and supported their husbands, who, in turn went out and worked, earned the money, and were the leader of the family. If the old gay-boy BDSM was that good, maybe we should go back to the 50s family too.

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]]> By: Fritz https://www.bondageblog.com/2012/07/21/the-making-of-a-dominant/#comment-22062 Sat, 21 Jul 2012 20:09:19 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/?p=5981#comment-22062 This is a direct parallel to how, traditionally (or perhaps mostly in myth — the difference between history and myth is notoriously small in Argantina) a hundred years ago, tango leads were trained in Buenos Aires. There were few women and so new young men started as follows. After they learned well enough how to dance they started practicing leading by leading new young men. Only after rising through those ranks could they lead women.

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