As with anything we read on the internet it needs to be read with a common sense filter and applied judiciously to one’s own circumstances. As I said in my own comment on it I got lucky but I made my luck by applying particular standards around integrity – it was one thing I understood even if I didn’t have such a reference guide.

While the standard is high, I wouldn’t suggest that one doesn’t dom until one has ‘ticked off’ all of them. My interpretation is that the list was compiled as things to look for, not prerequisites or absolutes. I think the chief concern is to ensure that people exploring new aspects to their sexuality have experiences that help them to blossom, whatever their role.

Wouldn’t it be interesting to see an essay for new(ish) doms, and what to look for in a sub?