Comments on: Ropes And Ball Gags In Heaven?

By: Ivy

Ivy — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 05:56:56 +0000

It seems to me much of the guilt Dude feels comes less from deep religiosity – if he really felt all porn was wrong, he’d make an effort to stop – but the misguided thought that fantasies that turn him on relate to a reality of sexual misconduct. Obviously, lack of consent is rape. We can agree rape is bad. Pretending or consensual-non-consent isn’t the same thing at all.

By: Jonny

Jonny — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 19:48:05 +0000

I guess there are two concerns really.

The 1st is that a porn user feels guilty because on some level they feel that sex is dirty/sinful/wrong and that they are doing something sinful by indulging their sexual urges.

The 2nd is that the actors in hard core porn films may be being abused / taken advantage of. Or that some of the ‘amateur’ BDSM porn we see and enjoy may not be consensual.

I think we have all happily dismissed the 1st concern but the 2nd does trouble me. Is there anyway to mark a BDSM porn site as being non-abusive?

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By: LedLed

LedLed — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 17:02:24 +0000

Terry Pratchett books feature a character of Death who basically explains that what happens to you when you die is exactly what you THINK happens to you when you die.

So while all the religious nuts are burning in their own eternal hell because they ate pork, or carried a little Jesus around with them (actually against one of the 10 commandments!), all the athiests are floating in nothing and not experiencing anything at all, and all the hedonistic self-assured people are having a whale of a time for all eternity.

Though I hope it’s not true (I’d be in the second category!), it would be hilarious if it was.

If your religion makes you feel guilty about something you did, you need to change religions. The happiest religious people I know are of the mindset “God has a sense of humour, wants me to enjoy my life but throws the occasional curveball in just to spice things up”, the most miserable are of the mindset: “You will burn in hell if you don’t do exactly everything I say (and nothing that I actually do)”.

And if enjoying sex is actually a sin (especially when hormones are raging), you really have to consider what sort of sick-minded God would make it so attractive, sinful, naturally-occurring, intimate, loving and enjoyable all at the same time.

By: d.

d. — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 13:58:43 +0000

What Pat said. I was brought up in a socially conservative version of Christianity rather than Orthodox Judaism, but I got the same “Human nature is a sin, and our faith offers the only absolution” schtick.

By: RC

RC — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 04:54:08 +0000

I am not sure who he caused to suffer by viewing the porn. But suppose for the sake of argument he will suffer the same way as the porn did. Then his punishment in Hell will be to be covered with something sticky.

By: Pat Powers

Pat Powers — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 00:18:25 +0000

That is one fucked up guy. But his problem is, he’s not fucked up because he likes porn. He’s fucked up because he’s got that whole Jewish guilt thing going. And he’s projecting it relentlessly on the rest of the world. A lot of religions work like that … get you thinking you are morally responsible for your sexual urges and then tell you there’s a way out of the guilt … believe what they want you to believe, do what they tell you to. A very old racket, depressingly still successful.