Comments on: BDSM And Love (And Staples) https://www.bondageblog.com/2009/02/26/bdsm-and-love/ Taking Pleasure In The Beauty Of Restrained Women Tue, 08 Dec 2015 15:09:54 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.2 By: Mia https://www.bondageblog.com/2009/02/26/bdsm-and-love/#comment-12659 Fri, 27 Feb 2009 12:37:31 +0000 http://www.bondageblog.com/2009/02/26/bdsm-and-love/#comment-12659 I always appreciate these thoughts on sadism and masochism. What we do takes trust. I couldn’t “bottom” to just anyone. In fact, I’d never even been so much as sexually spanked until my husband despite the desires for sexual pain. At least I can’t allow that kind of closeness with just anyone. I have to really know that the person on the other end of a flogger or the person tying my knots has my best interest at heart–not just their own. When I give my body, I really give up complete control. I allow that person to create my limits and trust that they won’t take me too far. In those moments and the few quiet ones that follow when we’re coming back to a more “vanilla” state of mind, I’m not sure I ever love my husband more.

I talk about this some on my blog, but my thoughts always seem to be scattered in comments on others’ blogs. Maybe one day I’ll get it all into something half as coherent and eloquent as Mistress Matisse. Thanks for the link, RG.

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