How To Find A Dom
SapioSlut recently reposted from FetLife a lengthy essay by “TheSensualDom2008″:
For New(ish) Girls: A Guide to Finding that First Dom
Written in the voice of a dominant man, it contains much advice that looks useful to me; especially in the warnings about what to avoid, the red flags thrown up by poseurs and wannabes, and the basic internet dating safety tips.
That said, I had to repeatedly restrain my own outbursts of laughter when reading the sections describing how “a dominant guy” is likely to feel and to behave. I kept hearing the imagined voice of Tarl Cabot describing the virtues of a warrior. It’s not that the traits and behaviors identified aren’t common among many dominant men, and it’s not that many of these traits and behaviors aren’t sexy to submissive women. Both of these things may be true. But the overall picture painted is an unrealistic fantasy, I’d say. For a self-described dom to describe dominant men in such glowing colors? That strikes me as a spectacular display of (real or imagined, we’ll never know) peacock feathers.
Submissive girls, may you be so lucky as to find such a dominant man!
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