Kinky Online Dating: Doing It Right

Folks, you may find this useful. Weary of online dating as Mollena was, she found a good one that way, and she took the the time to break down the initial message the dude sent, with line-by-line pointers on just exactly how to send a successful first greeting. Obviously it’s all situational, but still:

Let’s break this shit down.

Minus: No photo. Usually these were immediately ditched however the content was enough to tip the balance for the following reasons:

  1. Enthusiasm. The simple interjection at the top was uplifting and raw, and suggests a willingness to reveal emotions.
  2. Demonstrated reading comprehension in mirroring back actual detail from all over my profile.
  3. Created an opportunity for bonding by establishing a shared lifestyle choice outside of a purely sexual context.
  4. Acknowledged a potential expectation gap while immediately offering a conciliatory “plus” to “make up for” the perceived shortfall.
  5. Matter-of-fact statement of confidence and success, while also sharing detail that could potentially be independently verified by external referencing. Furthermore, described titillating detail on the type of artistic endeavours he pursues.
  6. Clear and unequivocal statement of intent. Erotically charged without feeling slimy, pushy or hyper-aggressive. Suggestive, yet still leaving room for flirtation. Truly, a brilliant stroke.
  7. Closed with what is likely his Default World name, which is a nice little gesture of trust.

The whole post is worth your time if you’re fishing the online dating waters.

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