Why Bondage?

The Twisted Monk has just posted a story he likes to tell when people ask him why he likes bondage. It’s too good not to quote and it’s too short to excerpt, so I’m, well, just ganking the whole thing. Maybe he’ll forgive me if I distract him by throwing in this only-tangentially-relevant link to the internet storefront where he sells his incomparable bondage rope?

Few years back I was selling rope at a convention and got into this very conversation with three well known and well regarded rope tops. When asked, the first paused and stroked his chin contemplatively and said, “It would have to be the artistry of it all, the lines and how they form across the body. The symmetry of the rope and how it forms the bottom into a compelling shape…”

The next one shook his head and disagreed, “That is all well and good, but for me it is the engineering of it. The “how” of doing bondage, what knots are going to be the strongest and most useful, how am I going to execute the bondage in the most efficient and streamlined fashion… that is what I really like”

Turning to the third and final rigger, he sorta shrugged and in a matter of fact voice said, “I do it cuz trying up pretty girls makes my dick hard. Always has.”

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7 comments on “Why Bondage?”:

Mia commented on January 7th, 2009 at 1:04 pm:

That made me giggle. I believe we’d call this “different strokes for different folks?” Some people are more cerebral; others are more corporeal.

TeaMan commented on January 9th, 2009 at 1:21 am:

This is true, but I still believe that to a certain extent that’s probably part of why those other two guys do it. The first guy could have been an artist and the second an architect. But in the end the sexual appeal of “tying up pretty girls” is part of why they do it.

Evangeline commented on January 9th, 2009 at 6:32 pm:

Wonderfully…refreshingly honest! ‘Tis the selfsame reason I adore being bound and gagged; but occasionally sex is not necessarily part of the equation. It is always nice to have the option, though.

NonRopeMan commented on January 10th, 2009 at 6:01 am:

Refreshing honesty, indeed! For my part, I could never understand the attraction of these elaborate rope projects, especially when sex was NOT involved; even more generally, I can’t (no insult intended) understand the attraction of ANYTHING kinky that purports to stand on its own without any sex. It really baffles me. Really, what’s the point of spanking a beautiful girl’s naked ass and viewing the whole scene with the same detachment with which you view a painting in a museum?

slave d. commented on January 10th, 2009 at 8:49 am:

I prefer to enjoy my kink for what it is rather than to rationalize it. I have a job that involves analyzing complex technical issues and rebutting other people’s logic regarding those issues, but in a scene, I want to do what comes naturally (provided, of course, that it’s safe, sane, and consensual). Nonetheless, I appreciate that others may see it differently.

Mia commented on January 11th, 2009 at 9:00 am:

NonRopeMan, I frequently watch porn or view erotic videos/scenes/stories without getting aroused. I like the complexity of sex and enjoy standing back to see how people’s bodies move, how they sound, what’s going on around them. Sure, I like to masturbate to these things, but I’ve plenty of appreciation for the kink as an art form.

Luther commented on January 11th, 2009 at 1:10 pm:

The look, the design, the control all contribute to make me hard. Obviously it’s more fun when I’m the one tying up the pretty girl, but it never stops me from getting stiff when I admire someone else’s handy work.

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