The Purpose Of Bondage

Bondage as art? A tied woman as a pretty erotic sight?

Or functional bondage? A woman tied to put her, and keep her, right where you want her, in the position you want her in, helpless to prevent whatever you want to do to and with her?

The Bondage Blog motto was carefully chosen to suggest both: “Taking pleasure in the beauty of restrained women” can mean “by looking at them” or it can mean something rather less passive.

Carrie Ann at A View From The Floor has this to say:

I can’t seem to get into the whole “let’s tie some pretty ropes around you, it’ll take three hours to get a lot of pretty knots and a great design and then we’re done” thing. But lately I’ve been thinking a lot about another kind of bondage.

The kind of bondage where you’re tied down and cut off from movement or escape.

The type of bondage where you’re you’re leashed or tied off or caged because he doesn’t want you to move, because that’s the spot he wants you in.

I don’t want pretty rope dresses or fancy knot work.

I want a collar and leash that only lets me go so far.

I want a spreader bar that forces my legs to stay open no matter what he does.

I want cuffs that keep my hands out of his way.

I want rope and chain that immobilize me or simply keep me where I”m supposed to be.

My own view is that we like “bondage-as-art” precisely because it suggests the functional side. But of course, the world is full of kinky people who aren’t quite willing to “own” their own kinks. “I like bondage, but it’s just an aesthetic appreciation, I’m not one of those serious perverts who wants to tie up girls so he can fuck them like that….”

Sure. Yeah, right. Whatever.

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9 comments on “The Purpose Of Bondage”:

slave d. commented on July 12th, 2007 at 4:32 am:

Agreed. I’ve never gotten into the whole “bondage as macramé” thing. To me, it’s about who has power over whom.

Your comment about people who aren’t willing to own their own kinks is very astute. Have you noticed the books on Japanese rope bondage in coffee-table-book format? People can kid themselves that they’re just showing their appreciation of things exotic and multicultural.

SIL commented on July 14th, 2007 at 10:42 am:

I enjoy bondage because it means she can’t move, not because I think she looks pretty in it!

I3 commented on July 15th, 2007 at 6:24 pm:

I like to echo most of what slave d said. However, in reference to the coffee table books: I enjoy them because they let me show off what I enjoy to my vanilla friends. It gets them interested in the ‘exotic/multicultural’ aspect and gives me an avenue to discuss my passion. ;)

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marridct commented on July 16th, 2007 at 6:06 am:

That’s how we like it too!!! Keep me tied tight so that I’m helpless and my husband can do what ever he wants!
Just thinking about being tied and spread open makes me wet!!!

Tina commented on July 18th, 2007 at 11:03 am:

I agree with what Carrie Ann has to say… but how many of you have thought of the next step? My Master frequently asks me if I NEED to be bound (with ropes, chains, spreaders, and the rest of that stuff). I try to be strong enough to stay still, in position, while he does what he wants to do.

I can assure you that he doesn’t “ease up” when I’m bound only by his will; and usually, now, I succeed in taking what I’m given without unseemly noise or motion.

Pendog commented on July 19th, 2007 at 5:38 am:

I often tie My slave girl in any manner of positions, and use both rope as well as chains / padlocks for various bondage scenes. It’s very intriguing and invites creativity as well as kink…

Ashbless commented on November 16th, 2010 at 7:12 pm:

Bondage always makes a woman more beautiful, if you like that look they get on their faces when the rope goes on. I know I do.

Roberto commented on November 17th, 2010 at 1:50 am:

Bondage fixates her, and I find THAT pretty.

Akiya commented on July 7th, 2013 at 1:40 pm:

I am half Japanese and we see shibari as an art to show the beauty of female body !

For myself I prefer Western rigging : tight and effective – ready for use ;)

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